I am a 68-year-old man. In the last few years my orgasms have decreased in intensity. They now vary from “That was OK, I guess” to “Oh, I think I felt it.” I still feel desire and excitement during sex, but the climax is often very disappointing. At times the only evidence I have of orgasm is the fact that I have ejaculated. This is gradually tempering my libido and I often only initiate sex to please my partner; I no longer expect any pleasure for myself. What is wrong with me?
It would be wise to seek an evaluation from a physician. Ageing does not cause decreased orgasmic intensity in itself, but dwindling hormones and a number of other conditions or diseases might cause it. Certain medications or supplements – prescribed or otherwise – can lead to all kinds of sexual side-effects, so be sure to seek detailed information about anything you are taking and request a change if necessary. Also consider that psychological issues such as depression can affect a person’s sexual response, as can stress and anxiety … do any of those apply to you? While investigating the cause of your disappointing orgasms, don’t be afraid to advocate strongly for your sexual health and pleasure.
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